Odd story for you...
Last summer I went to a funeral with my mom for a family member on my Dad's side of the family. When we were there we chatted with my dad's cousin. I hadn't seen him in years and he was very close with my dad when they were teenagers.
A few days later I was having dinner with my parents when said cousin came up in conversation.
Dad: You know... I always had a feeling he was gay.
Me: What?? Really??
Dad: Yeah... when we were younger I just thought he was.
Me: Well I don't think so. He was even telling us about how he has a cabin and he goes there with his girlfriend all the time.
Mom: Well... that doesn't mean anything, Grandma was married to your dads dad.
Me: I just don't see that... wait.... WHAT??
Me: What did you just say???
Mom: About what?
Me: Did you just say Grandma was married once? As in... shes gay?
Mom: (just gives me a look of confusion)
Me: .... so you're saying Grandma is gay??
Mom: You didn't know?
Me: NO!! I mean... it makes total sense when you think about it... but how am I JUST finding out about this now?
Dad: Who did you think *insert grandmas girlfriends name here* was?
Me: ........Her roommate? I just thought they were two divorced older women who were lonely and didn't want to live alone. So... they are a couple?? What the hell??
My parents: (laughing at my "roommate" comment)
Me: How is it that I'm 26 and JUST being told about this now???
Mom: I don't know... we thought you knew?
This little bit of information shook me to the core. How was it that at 26 years old the topic of my grandmothers sexuality preference finally comes out?? It baffled me. I mean looking at the whole picture it completely made sense. My grandma divorced my grandpa when my dad was 2 and has never had a male companion for as long as I have been around. She has always lived with *insert girlfriend name here* since I can remember and shes sort of a plaid wearing, men's haircut, not feminine in anyway kinda woman.
I love her the same and it doesn't change my feelings of her as my grandma but its was just strange that that's just how I thought it was... her and her roommate.
I found out later that when she came out, it was in the 70's and society wasn't as accepting as they are now so my dad was embarrassed by the whole concept. He never talked about it and apparently it took him a long time to even tell my mom when they were first dating.
It makes me wonder though... what else don't I know about my family?