A few years back... okay 10 years back (where does the time go??) my best friend and I created a "Dream Love List". It was a list of 50 things that we wanted in a perfect man. We were 17 when we wrote it so of course its written in blue marker and the pages are covered in glittery lips stickers. So. Freakin. Cool.
We made a pact (because thats what you do as best friends, pacts mean you're serious) that we wouldn't look at it until one of us got engaged or considered marrying someone. If they didn't fit the criteria, you couldn't marry them. Okay... maybe that seems a little harsh but we were 17, it was all or nothing.
The list got packed away with all the other old photos and everything else from our pre-adult years and we moved on with our lives.
Flash forward to a few weeks ago when I was going thru some of my things in my parents basement (actually, I was looking for my GOLD pants from an old disco costume to possibly wear to the Black/White/Gold party in Vegas... no luck in finding them though). But I did come across some papers folded together and tucked neatly in my yearbook. It was the Love List.
I had a little squeal of excitement and reminiscing and unfolded the papers. I instantly remembered what it was and knew I couldn't read the list with out my BFF there with me. So I took the list home and called her right away. She of course squealed in the same high pitched voice as me and said "DONT read it with out me!!". Thats why were BFF's, we get each other.
A few days later we were in the same place, at the same time, with THE list.
Now... although I am awesomely single, she is in a very long term relationship. Almost 8 years now. They are not married or engaged (yet...) but she knows for certain that she wants to and will marry him. We went thru the list with him in mind.
Shockingly he got 93%!!
It was like this list was written for him! We couldn't believe it! The things he didn't score full points on were sort of silly things like
- Treats me like a princess (he got 1/2 points because he doesn't quite do that ALL the time)
- Isn't a perfectionist (apparently we thought this was important at 17, i think one of us dated someone who was a bit OCD and we were hella-annoyed by it) (did i just say hella?? this flashback post is making me write like im 17 again too...)
But he got ALL the important ones right!
- Is close with his family
- Can dance (very important!)
- Is okay with acting silly sometimes
- Loves me for me
There are many more items on the list (44 more to be exact) and I am so happy for her that she has found what she has always wanted. It fills my heart with rainbows and unicorns and sugar plum fairies. I love her and it makes me so happy to see her happy.
It got me thinking... maybe I should bring the list with me everywhere I go and use it as an interviewing tool for potential boyfriends.
"So...Are you close with your family?
Yes? Okay good... lets see here...
In your opinion, what is the value of a best friend?
Would you say you are the type of person who likes to try new things?
Yes? Please give an example of something new you have tried in the past month?
I see, I see.... what about dancing? Please provide a sample of your best dance moves.
That's enough, thank you. Please fill out your name and number on this form. Someone will be in contact you if we are interested in a second interview"
Its pretty much a flawless plan, don't you agree?